18 Jun 2013

Immerse yourself in sparkling charisma!

You know when you see some people and you think to yourself, “Isn’t she the most perfect person ever, I want to be just like here!” or “OMG, I need to be friends with that person”  or “Wow, he’s such an amazing people’s person, everyone loves him to bits!”  Or did I only used to think like that about certain people I don’t know, does that make me weird? Well, if it does, than oh well, weird is the new fabulous! But anyway, if you do ever have these thoughts and you want to know the secret recipe on how to be genuinely charming, then read on…

Immerse yourself in sparkling charisma or 6 useful tips on how to be genuinely charming! (No faking because we don’t like fakes over here.)

1.Smile: People love smiles, just think haappy thoughts and you'll automatically be smiling. Oh and be sure to use your eyes too(you know what I'm talking about, the Tyra Bank's smize).
  
2.Body Language: A while ago I had a session about how body languages. I learnt that it’s one of the main things that determine your mood and impression. Some would’ve thought that it’s the other way round, but no. When your posture is upright rather than slouchy you automatically gain confidence and confidence is the key to being charismatic. 

3.Eye contact: It’s very important to make eye contact during conversations. This will make the other person respect and appreciate you because you’re respecting and appreciating them.

4.Don’t fidget: May attention to the person and don’t fidget, fidgeting would give the impression that you’re not interested and this would put-off the other person.

5.Dress well: Look presentable. Don’t look like someone that hasn’t had a bath in centuries. This quote sums up the reason why you should dress well, pretty well: “I don't understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little - if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that's the day she has a date with destiny. And it's best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.” -Coco Chanel

6.Have clean teeth: There’s nothing more off-putting than talking to someone with food visibly hanging in their mouth, trust me I’ve had that unfortunate experience. It’s unattractive!


And that is how to be charismatic!
Peace and Love,


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28 May 2013

Oops, I didn’t mean that!- A public apology


I’m always super honest with you and so I feel like you should know this: The post you’re about to read is something I wrote a while ago, and had it scheduled for the 7th of May. However, I didn’t put it up because maybe, I guess my ego got in the way…keep reading on and then you’ll see what I mean. *Hands it over to Hinna of the past*

I’ve been feeling a little self-conscious and I feel like I need to clear up the air, let me explain…
A couple of days ago I wrote a status on Facebook saying this, “Funny how the tables have turned with the "popular" kids from school. Popularity didn't get you very far... did it? Not intending to be mean, just making a point. Karma.” A short while later a friend from school responded letting me know that she thought this status came across as being “spiteful” and it was “embarrassing”

Initially I didn’t think much of it, I just said what I thought, and thought what I said was a true statement (Woah, tongue twister!) However, after a while, I soon came to realise that maybe I didn’t word the status for how it was meant to be.  Even though in the status I wrote “Not intending to be mean” I still think I was, well, I know I was and now I regret it.

We shouldn’t ever put people down, and I should’ve known that better than anybody, as I’ve been put down so many times by people I thought I trusted.  I was wrong to judge and I want to fix my mistake. So I'm apologising, I'm sorry.    

The point of putting this up online for the whole world to see is to remind you and me that sometimes, people make mistakes. It’s how we learn, but the best amongst the people that make mistakes are those who realise they've made them but still try to amend them by saying sorry. Sometimes, however, people let their pride take over, they don’t like to admit they’re wrong, I think I do that too sometimes, but then at the end of the day, the guilt takes over and I have to apologise no matter what.

Also, I’m not writing this to please anyone/everyone because ultimately I cannot do that. People will always have something to say, and lets be real, we can’t change that. But, I think that’s a good thing, let people talk about what you’re doing, because then people will learn more about you. Let them say anything as long as you’re genuinely true to yourself.


To finish this up on a happy note, here’s a little video dedicated to everyone that I’ve ever hurt, intentionally or otherwise. I’m Sorry.

“An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything. - Lynn Johnston”
Peace and Love,
Dedicated to Chynna :) 

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21 May 2013

I'm Insecure, I Know What For


So the title grabbed your attention, right? You probably clicked on this post thinking it’ll be some kind of WMYB parody. No *shakes head frantically*it’s not and I don’t think I’ll be doing anything of the sort anytime soon or ever in my lifetime.  Sorry folks, but I’m doing you a favour because my singing will just make your ears bleed!
What is this post really about then, Hinna? Hurry up and tell me, you’re like totally wasting my time now! 
Okay, wait, wait! Don’t exit out, that’s just rude!  Give me a chance! Jheeez! So, this post is all about how I deal with my insecurities and self-doubt. I thought I’d share some tips with you because you’re my internet friend and I care about you! 

People are always feeling insecure, it’s a common instinct built up during the years but we can always do something to get rid of this unwanted feeling.  I, myself have felt very insecure in the past for a very long time about almost everything in my life.

But I’ve learnt how to deal with most of my insecurities over the years by implementing these 3 tips:

NUMBER 1: Accept your flaws. After accepting your flaws no one can ever hurt you. Take me for example, I’ve accepted that I live with a lifelong skin-disorder and I absolutely love the skin I’m in, ever since I made the conscious decision to accept this, no one has ever bugged me or bullied me about it, and we’re talking about a girl that happened to be constantly bullied about how ugly her skin looked.

NUMBER 2: Surround yourself with people giving you good feedback, good but also genuine! This may be difficult at first but once you’ve surrounded yourself with a solid group of people giving you positive feedback then your confidence will defiantly rise up and you’ll feel so much better about yourself. 

NUMBER 3: Most importantly, believe in yourself, be honest with yourself and love yourself. This links to the first point which is accepting flaws, you can only accept your flaws, if you love yourself. So learn to love yourself make a note about all the good things about you, think deeply about this and write down everything good thing that comes to your mind. 

And there you have it, my tips on how to overcome your insecurities, please share any other tips you may have in the comments below and let’s help our internet friends out. 
"Self-worth comes from one thing- thinking that you are worthy." - Dr Wayne Dyer


***Also, totally unrelated but very IMPORTANT:*** 
I know this is a long shot but here’s the thing,  I REALLY want to create an internet talk show on YouTube covering the topics I’m most passionate about, which are about learning to love yourself and living life to the fullest. I want this show to be created professionally and for it to be the best quality for you, but to do this; I desperately need your help.
I need to get 10 thousand subscribers on my YouTube channel so I can use a professional studio. I only have 70 at the moment and it might take the longest time ever to get there but I know with your help I can do it. Please subscribe to my channel, it’s completely free and by doing this you can really make my dream come true. Please tell everyone you know to subscribe to my channel and when I get to the 10 thousand subscriber point, I’ll promise not to disappoint and host the best internet talk show ever! Thank you so much!
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Stay blessed
Peace and Love




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20 May 2013

Dear Diary, Want To Read A Random Little Story Fresh Off My Head?


*WARNING- NOT MY USUAL INSPIRATIONAL/MOTIVATIONAL POST- BUT HAVING SAID THAT, THIS POST DOES HAVE A GOOD MEANING BEHIND IT, YOU'VE JUST GOT TO SEARCH FOR IT! :P*

Dear diary,

I’m going to tell you a little story, it may not be the best story ever written, mainly because with these diary entries I don’t intend to make them perfect. I just write anything and everything that comes to my mind. It’s liberating for me, calms me down, somewhat like talking to a friend to get something off my back or to give my brain some air, that’s why I love writing these little entries every now and then.  So yeah, the story…

Once upon a time  there was a girl. This girl was at work, she was new there and thought it would be a good idea to talk to a colleague and introduce herself, so she plucked up the courage and did exactly that. The colleague was a guy called Jimbob.  The girl and Jimbob started talking about things and shared intellectual ideas, they spoke about common interests and swapped knowledge, it was all good….to begin with.

Later on that day, after work, the girl went home and soon realised that she had a message from Jimbob on Facebook saying that he had a good time sharing ideas and learning from one another and that he thought it would be a good idea to meet up and share more ideas together. So the girl replied and politely agreed that it was good to have the chance to share knowledge and ideas.
 As the days went by and she saw Jimbob more regularly something began to happen, this girl realised that Jimbob would act very strangely around her and would say the most awkward things like “You look amazing” or “It makes my day talking to you” normally this wouldn’t surprise or bother any other girl, but this girl didn’t like it, she actually despised it very much and Jimbob knew this very well, however he still kept on going deliberately just to get on the girls nerve. Jimbob continued making these petty remarks. It got so irritating and so the girl  had to tell  Jimbob that she wasn’t interested in the slightest, but Jimbob was a little stupid and kept going on…
When the girl couldn’t take it anymore she thought it would be a good idea to tell her fiancé about Jimbob (You didn/t see that coming, eh ;)),  So her fiancé decided to go to work and see who this Jimbob was, Jimbob took one glance at her fiancé, shrieked and ran away, never to bother the young girl again. The end…. :D

So yeah that just happened in my head :/, my imagination led me on and I just recorded everything down straight from my head to the word document I’m writing this on.  But now after this story, I’m wondering if girls and guys can ever be "just friends"? Is it really possible? After this little story I’ve just told, I maybe think, probably not. If someone starts bugging you all the time and continuously throws around embarrassing indications, it can get a little uncomfortable and then you would probably do the same thing as the girl did in the story and make it very obvious that you’re not in the  least bit interested, and if you're engaged you can ask your fiance to do it for you! But naah, you're an independent woman and you have class, so you just either tell him straight that you're not interested or hint it out at least! But don't be too harsh, maybe you might not intend to be harsh,but if you do something and you say you don’t intend to do it, doesn’t that contradict what you say and you actually do intend it because you've done it?  Otherwise you wouldn’t really have done it. Am I thinking too much? I don’t even know what I’m talking about anymore, this diary entry is too weird, even for me, maybe I should get some sleep.

But, I think my subconscious mind is telling me something ,I'll try to figure it out another time,also the following quote sums up this entry pretty well, not sure how but it does. Now I shall sleep. :)

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.” ― Oprah Winfrey

Peace and Love,


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14 May 2013

Just Say Yes


As you know I’ve suffered from depression and  severe anxiety disorder a year ago (you can read through my older posts to find out why this happened) and it was one of the most horrible experience I’ve ever been through. Every day I would stay in my bedroom, hardly eat, hardly get any sleep and just sit/lay there being miserable. I didn’t speak to anyone, never went out and I felt like I couldn’t do anything at all. I let everyday go pass me without accomplishing anything. I cannot even describe how rubbish this felt. I don’t want to admit it but frankly, I lost my motive to live.

Ironically, doing nothing was completely draining and I was fed up with how I felt. One day during August of last year, I decided I've had enough. I decided that from that day forward I wasn’t going to sit there feeling sorry for myself and do nothing with my life. I started going out more and saying YES to any opportunity that came my way. The more I said yes the more opportunities came. I finally felt like I was progressing in life. I started a blog to motivate and inspire me, and now it motivates and inspires thousands of people. I started CBT with my psychiatrist to get rid of my stupid depression and anxiety disorder... once and for all. I went back to university. I started writing a book. I started laughing more and making others laugh with me... I started falling in love with my life again. And that's not even half of it! As of today, I have so many exciting things planned for the near future that I cannot wait for. I intend to live my life with passion each and every day.

The point is, if I can overcome the darkest time of my life, then you can definitely do it too!

Watch the video that inspired this post by one of my favourite youtubers Zoe (Zoella). She tells a similar story to mine. Give it a little watch and I bet it’ll inspire you like it inspired me. 



"Everyone can reach their full potential, regardless of what other people might tell them. We are all loveable and worthy of living the lives we desire. Say “yes” to life by loving yourself first. Life will always respond with a resounding “yes” when you do." - Josephine Bila

Peace and Love
PS: I'd love it if you'd give that "like" button above some love if you liked this post. Also please do share it and spread the knowledge! 
PPS: Please facebook/tweet Zoe letting her know about this post, I'd love it if she gets to read it.
Thank you!


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